Finding strength in stillness and embracing quiet power.
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We live in a world where being bold and extroverted is often celebrated. Where loudness is being mistaken for strength and meekness with weakness. Which we know isn't true because there are people who possess a quieter kind of strength that doesn't always get the spotlight. A kind of quiet confidence that is calm. It’s rooted in core values. It doesn’t shout nor screams, but it shows.
As someone who values peace, softness, and self-growth, I’ve come to embrace this side of myself, and in this post, I want to explore what quiet confidence means and how you can benefit your own life.
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What Is Quiet Confidence?
Quiet confidence means having an unshakable belief in your own self-worth and abilities, without needing validation or approval from others. It's not boastful, loud or puts others down. it's steady, rooted in deep self-awareness.
When you embody quiet confidence, you exude calm strength, peace, and assurance, simply by being at ease with who you are. When you walk into a room, your presence is felt and people gravitate towards you because of the positive energy you exude.
Why Quiet Confidence Matters?
There’s this common belief that to be confident, you have to be loud. But more often than not, it comes across as being performative, forced and even a little fake. You don't need to be all over the place or doing the most.
What if your true power comes from stillness?
Quiet confidence helps you:
- Speak up when need be and act with intention
- Set boundaries without guilt, basically knowing when Say “no” when needed.
- Walking away from things that no longer align with your vision.
- Stop comparing yourself constantly.
My journey with quiet confidence.
Growing up as an introverted and shy kid was almost a nightmare, I often felt so out of place in a world that seemed to reward loudness. I was made to feel like something was wrong with me simply because I was quiet. At school, I used to dread giving speeches, my hands would tremble so much, and I’d forget my words halfway through and I remember distinctly when other kids would laugh at me. Back then, I didn’t know it, but I had low self-esteem and I didn’t trust myself.
Now that I’m in my older, I see things differently. I’m still a work in progress, but I’ve become so much more comfortable in my own skin. I’ve started to embrace my softness, building my confidence, slowly but surely, day by day.
Signs You Already Have Quiet Confidence.
I really believe quiet confidence lives in all of us, it just looks a little different for everyone. Even if you’re more on the introverted side, you might already carry this kind of quiet strength without even realizing it. Here are a few gentle signs:
- You’re more focused on peace than being right. If you find yourself choosing peace over petty arguments or needing to prove your point, it shows your emotional maturity and understanding that not every battle is worth your time and energy. Quiet strength and confidence is about choosing peace and forgiveness.
- You're humble which simply means you don't place yourself above others and you're willing to learn from other people.
- You don’t overshare just to fill silence.
- You’ve stopped explaining your worth to people. You're okay with who you are which means you don't have to convince people to see your value.
- You choose rest without feeling lazy.
- You’re kind, but you don’t 'people please' like you used to. Quiet confidence is about embracing your soft heartedness without being a pushover.
If any of this resonates with you. you’re likely walking in quiet confidence already. Which is great actually!
This kind of confidence isn’t built overnight, it’s nurtured gently, like a plant that needs daily sunlight.
Here are simple, cozy ways to grow this peaceful strength in your everyday life:
1. Start Your Morning Slowly
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How you begin the day can shape the rest of your day. So when you wake up, have a morning routine that will make a positive impact on your life. Pour your favourite cup of tea or coffee. Read scripture or a devotional and have a solid plan of the rest of your day.
2. Journal Without Pressure
Have a proper self care or gratitude journal. Write about what you're grateful for. What you’re learning. What you’re releasing. As you jot down all your feelings, you'll start to notice certain habits and patterns on your behaviour which helps you become more self aware and have a deeper understanding of who you are. You don’t need fancy prompts, just honesty and a willingness to open up and building self worth.
If you're not sure where to start, I really recommend The Self-Confidence Workbook. It's a beautiful guide for overcoming self-doubt and building lasting confidence.
3. Dress for How You Want to Feel
Whether you're working from home, heading to the office, or simply enjoying a slow day in, what you wear can determine your overall mood. Clothes aren't just about fashion, they're a form of self-expression and can boost your confidence.
When you're chilling at home, choose soft textures and calming colors. Think knitwear that hugs without restricting, blouses that drape softly, and tailored pieces that feel like you, but polished.
Even on casual days, something as simple as a matching lounge set, a clean pair of jeans with a soft cardigan, or even neutral-toned socks can help you feel more put-together and rooted in yourself.
4. Take Quiet Walks Without Music
Let your thoughts breathe. Feel the air, Look up at the sky. Watch the trees sway. That’s meditation too. Being aware of your surroundings keeps you more grounded. Teach yourself to walk with confidence, with your head up high, and never look down, unless your tying your shoes of course.
5. Read One Uplifting Thing a Day
It could be scripture, a quote, or a few pages of a good book. Choose words that build you up. Books like Trust Yourself: Quiet Confidence for Sensitive, Thoughtful Women are packed with tools and strategies to help build your confidence.
6. Practice Saying “No” Gently
Quiet Confidence also means protecting your peace. If you feel like something isn't aligning with you, it's okay to say no. Saying no doesn’t make you unkind. Setting boundaries makes people respect you more.
7. Curate a Cozy Corner
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Create a space in your home that reflects your energy, whether it be calm, chaotic, fun, and warm. A space where you can be unapologetically you, maybe it's a reading nook with fairy lights with fluffy pillows, or a creative desk space if you're an artist, where you can have all your favourite art supplies. An inviting space where you feel safe and inspired to be confident.
These are a few cozy must haves to build your cozy sanctuary:
- Comfy floor cushion or an exquisite reading chair for relaxing or reading.
- Fairy string lights for your reading nook
- Scented candle or essential oil diffuser
- Boho throw blanket
- Minimalist desk organizer
- A mini projector for movie nights
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